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Joined: 11/25/2007
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Location: NJ
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I have an amazing boyfriend who treats me with the most respect and i enjoy being around him very much. There is one MINOR problem and that is he's kind of cheap. I'm not about money but I've been dating him over 6 months and he's only treated me to dinner once and that was because i was sick and he probably felt bad. The thing is I just think it would be sweet to get treated once in a while and it's not like i want him to pay for things all the time, just once in a while. I've "treated" him plenty of times thinking he might get the hint but I don't think it's sunk in. Should i just get used to it? Because other than that he's an amazing person.
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/12/2007
Posts: 117
Location: South-East Oklahoma
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If he is SO amazing why can't you bring this up to him honestly? No offense, but saying he's amazing THEN in the same post tall about something that can easily be fixed by conversating sends RED FLAGS in my head. My point is, take advantage of his amazingness and talk to him about it, trust if he is an amazing guy, he'll handle it thusly. Just let him know how you feel about it, honest like you did here, and it should go just fine. 90% of all relationship problems can be handled by simply talking thru it honestly and heartfelt, of course easier said then done.....
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Rank: Member
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Joined: 12/10/2007
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ditto :)
good communication is key to a good relationship
and reallie... that's not cool if he only took you out once :O so tell him it bothers you. guys are dense and don't reallie get it until you tell them. been there done that~~ ahem. ^^
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/11/2007
Posts: 107
Location: Northwoods of Wisconsin - BEAUTIFUL country
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Ask him about it?
My husband hardly ever treated me to dinner out even when we were dating. He is EXTREMELY money cautious (some people cal it "cheap"). I also wanted him to treat me out. I finally asked. He answered that it is a waste of hard earned money for two reasons: The cost to prepare at home was less and the meals I cooked tasted better. Well...when he put it THAT way, it was easier for me to give up my expectation. When I tell him I need to be treated, he will either cook dinner for me or take me out for the dollar menu!
BTW, all that money he saved by not treating me out on the town as often as I would like, he used to buy me a car!!! I'd say that was by far a better deal!
happy thoughts.......
peggy m
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/17/2007
Posts: 245
Location: Florida
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He sounds like a great guy for you, if that's his only fault, well you should just deal with it. You can also be like hey you wanna take me out tonight, say things like htat, maybe he will get a hint ..Good Luck..hold on to your man..there arent too many happy people out their.
Rocky
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Joined: 1/10/2008
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Location: Pickering
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You have to talk to him and ask him! Maybe he has good reasons, he may not have the extra money for dinner out. Maybe he is saving for college or to buy a house or get married some day.There are many reasons people don't want to spend on things they feel are extravagant. Every one has different priorities for their money.
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