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i just came out of relationship and i can tell you for sure when it started going downhill. as soon as we stopped communicating with each other we started to lose trust and we were never the same. we want to try and get back together but know that we need to fix things first. does anyone have advice for trying to fix communication problems. thanks for the help. 
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Rank: Newbie
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Joined: 11/24/2007
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You are exactly right about that as soon as you lose communication everything else just goes bad...I went through the same thing with my ex, and usually if not handled right away alot of bitterness builds, and i can seak from experience and say when bitterness is built its over and there is no way out, so my advice would be to just bring it out in the open as soon sa possible, and by bring it out i mean a complete laying out of your total feelings with complete honesty. Honesty at this point isn essential, no jeed to sugar coat anything...I would be curious to know how long you have een in a bad communication phase
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Joined: 12/11/2007
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Location: Northwoods of Wisconsin - BEAUTIFUL country
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'DavidT' hit it right on the head. Honesty!
Other keys to unlock communication is to NOT insult and call her out if she insults you. Don't try and hurt the one you love just because you feel hurt.
Get to know her language! Sometimes when we listen to someone, we THINK we know what they are saying only to find out later that we misunderstood! How often do you hear "that's not what I meant!" Don't be afraid to say "I am not sure if I understand. Are you saying....?" or if you think she may have misunderstood let her know "I'm not sure if I have explained...."
Know when to give in and when to stand your ground on issues. Don't be afraid to make your point and make sure you listen to hers. I can't even tell you how many issues that either I or my husband simply changed our views after listening to what the other had to say.
It takes time to be a good communicator and lots and lots of practice. The two of you should not allow yourselves to get discouraged. Keep at it. It isn't easy but it does get easier.
happy thoughts.......
peggy m
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Joined: 12/17/2007
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Hi
Your right lack of communication can end a relationship..You have to have communication.If your going to try again, you both need to be open and express what you are feeling at all times. Never hold anything in. If one is trying to express their feelings then you need to listen and except how they are feeling, you may or maynot agree but in a relationship you have to repect ones feelings and you can voice your opionion, but stand by eachother.You also stated you both were losing trust, trust is also important in a relationship, that will be earned by eachother.
Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed.
Rocky
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