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So are there any "for sure" tips for this. Please reply.
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I don't think that there are any "for sure" tips out there. You just have to be willing to listen.
Cecelia
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First you need to recognize the difference between the feelings of being in love and the love a couple shares.
The in love phase will come and go. It's up to you to keep the spark alive within. Don't let the day to day frustrations invade your mind and turn off the spark.
The love a couple shares is a two way street. Keep things positive. If there are frustrations find the source and take care of it immediately before it grows into something negatively bigger.
Allow yourself to smile and feel the love and don't be shy about expressing it! Let your partner know when they hit the right buttons! Don't be stingy with compliments. Allow yourself a belly laugh.. it's contagious!
happy thoughts.......
peggy m
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true, peggy_m. you shouldnt be trying to make your feeling last, unless that feeling is the true one --> L-O-V-E
but for the most part - it's important to realize that it is always an ongoing battle, but for me a battle worth fighting.
good luck
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There are ways to keep the fire from burning out.... First of all you should always have the communication going. Always have trust and be honest with one another....
Secondly, Always make time for yourselves, even if it's just once a week.... (never get used to a routine) Have candle light dinners, send an e-mail once in a while letting him know how much you love him and miss him, or anything you want to send him.... Wait for him with a nice lingerie on etc...
Being in love and in a relationship is like a job.. The both of you have to work at it to make it work and not let the fire burn out.... If the both of you do it... You will be just fine....
Good luck
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Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily.
if you want to become more compassionate, thinking compassionate thoughts.
The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth. The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs (particularly, in an adult relationship, emotional needs). The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he [or she] is, to be aware of his [or her] unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he [or she] is."
Like the saying goes "The more you give, the more you love."
Rocky
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'rockyfella', can I quote you? I just love the way you put that!
happy thoughts.......
peggy m
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I like to add because ROCKS got it right there!!! He is tip-toeing around it that sweet son of a gun. But lets face it, some of the biggest relatioship problems we've seen isn't becasue of the love, its because people don't know HOW to love; each other, themselves. Any sure fire tip for an individual is a process of finding out, with each other, HOW to love each other as they see needed. I say this because I always see great relationships mature over-time because of this fact. But ROCKS got the sure fire advice their, following that path is almost gaurteed to make you one heck of a relationship, only thing it CAN'T gaurunttee is were that relationship well go, but thats always the magic behind them, love by itself doesn't give you nothing, like he said, that you don't give frist, Man rock you impress me.....
only thing I could add to that is that, THAT process should be also applied to the individual, you have to Know Thy Self too, and that in a way is a great way to find out who you are, by going thru those steps. Because as we've all seen relationships have a tendency to hurt our personal development, espacially if our choice was based ON that lack of development.... You know just going after the hot chick type stuff or the bad girl/boy....
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