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Joined: 1/12/2008
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Location: jacksonville florida
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ok so i started kinda seeing this guy and for the first month it was perfect then i had a little episode and o started freaking out cuz ive been so hurt in the past that i do not know how to relax and it was bad i blew up stormed out his apartment and ever since then he has been different and about every three days i start to overly text message him and it turns into an argument and him calling and telling me i worry to much and that im acting crazy and that if there wasnt any good in all this then we wouldnt be talking and we juss hung out two days in a row and it was awesome its perfect when we are with eachother he still pays kisses me in public holds my hand . but when we arent together and i ask if we can hang out and when he says maybe im suppost to watch the game with some friends .. i get upset and here we go again and then he will reassure me and i feel better and the process keeps repeating all my friends say wow u needa chill ur pushing him away and i asked him i said i dont understand how u went from being perfect and always making an effort to barely acting interested and he said cuz you started freaking out over nothing like you are now .. and like tonight he said we might beable to hang out if he didnt have to go with his friend to his friends to watch the game so i was hoping all day we could hang out and of coarse he is at his friends and i blew up and he was like your doing it again and said your right im not interested in being around you when you act like this ..grr what should i do????
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/12/2007
Posts: 117
Location: South-East Oklahoma
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Well if you need to be with this guy, relax, I know, hard, but if you can, you might just be able to keep this kid around. Now also, you might have to face the fact, you need more attention in a relationship to feel comfrontable, besides you might need someone who can be more... understanding? About your insecurities in a relationship and is willing to work with you in it. But its up to you, see if you can chill, relax, and be happy with this person, if not, you might have to accept you need some more then this guy can give you.
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/17/2007
Posts: 245
Location: Florida
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Hello
It sounds a bit you are insecure of yourself, one reason i feel this is because you are having difficulties in establishing healthy, long-lasting relationships. You are a person who needs alot of attention in a relationship and their isnt anything wrong with that. But he seems to like his space and their's nothing wrong with that. No two people are alike.
I think once you over power your insecurities you won't flair off so much..and you need too have a healthy and humorous belief in yourself in order to overlook your exaggerated need for acceptance and approval.Reward yourself for who you are and capitalize on your strengths, attributes, skills, and competencies. If you really like your bf you must be strong and not keep doing what your doing, cause just like your friends say (you are going to drive him away). Good Luck
Rocky
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