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me and my boyfriend want to make love to eachother but im still a little confused about the idea because of what my mom always told me when i was younger the whole i have to stay a virgin until i am married but i dont feel taht way i feel if you love some one you should do taht but what i want to know is how do you know if your ready or not??
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If you are even unsure a little bit about having sex, as in if you are asking us here, I would say you are not ready. It is a decision you should be able to make completely on your own. Take it from me, I had just a small bit of doubt in me but I did it anyway and now I wish I had waited. Your first time is something that you will most likely always remember, if not the experience at least who you did it with, so really make sure it is something you will not regret.
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You have to make sure your relationship isnt a very young one.Give it plenty of time because losing your virginity is something that will follow you especially if it's not right. Ask yourself do you love him and are you in love with him. Make sure that is yes on both.Have no doubt in your mind that he is the right one.Noone can say or even know if a relationship is going to last forever, that's impossible until marriage and sometimes that doesnt always work out.But just put your all into it and feel the love and you both will know if its the right time.Good Luck
Rocky
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I was the same way, wait until marriage to have sex. I was pretty much doing well, resisting the urge and then one day I realized that it wasn't something I wanted to do. Intimacy is one of the most crucial parts of a relationship, at least in my head. Sex can bring partners closer, but it can also cause them to grow apart.
How long have you and your boyfriend been together? I believe bringing sex into a relationship too early, causes a pattern of physical intimacy to develop, and the other aspects of being a couple are forgotten. Then again, having sex is a decision that both partners need to agree on. How does he feel? Is he even ready to be intimate? You have to take in the account of whether or not your partner is ready as well.
You say that you and him both want to make love, so perhaps you need to just sit down and bring to the table your conflicting emotions. I think that if there is any doubt in your mind, then right now isn't the time to move on to an intimate relationship. If you both really love each other, then when it' right, it'll fall into place and you will appreciate waiting. Best of luck :)
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