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Okay, so i had a relationship with this guy but it didn't last long but i think i fell in love with him..but immediatly after we stopped talking, i started dating his bets friend. then my boyfriend stopped being friends with him and another kid. After dating my boyfriend for a year, i cheated on him with the first guy and one other..i really like the first guy aand i know he likes me too, he told me. but then i think im still in love with my boyfriend. i don't know what to do. shoudl i stay with my boyfriend? or go back with the guy who i still like from the beginning?
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Hello xhottpink
my opinion would be go back with the first guy,because you like him and he likes you.You say you think you still love your boyfriend, but think about it really, if you did love him like you think, would you cheat on him? love is giving your love one all of you not part of you. You really need too think about who you truly want to be with..Follow your heart..I really cant decide for you only you can do that. But you also have too think about what you have been doing, isnt it time to try to settle down with one guy? Would you want that done too you? How would you feel if he did that too you..I know the feeling, it has happened too me in the past, and its very painful.Good Luck
Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.
Rocky
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thanks so much rocky, i ahve to ask though, isnt there something in you that makes you think less of the person who cheated on you. It's like for someone to take you back, they would be taking back a lesser version of me, and i dont wont this inferiority to be the foundation of our NEW relationship. just a tough situation, any more thoughts on this
appreciate it
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Hello xhottpink,
it's not that i would be taken back a lesser person, because they cheated, it would be the issue of not trusting any longer.People do make mistakes and love helps them cope with it, but if you dont have trust in a relationship then you have nothing. Love is strong and no matter what reasons are, you still feel the pain because you still feel the love..You know what i mean.When you go into your new relationship let your heart speak not your mind. I wish you all the luck. Love is powerful. You don't want to pass it up, you want to feel it.
For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.
Rocky
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'rocky' is right in that you are not anything the lessor. You do need to take a look and see which of these two men you envision a future with. It isn't the first time a woman was involved in a love triangle and it won't be the last.
Deeper issue is in yourself. I think you pretty much answered the question about staying with your boyfriend. Obviously, you are not getting what you need out of the relationship, hence cheating not once but twice! In order to stay with him, you really need to figure out what it is you aren't getting.
On the other hand, a new relationship is a new relationship, but if you have some issues in yourself as to why you cheated on the other guy that you don't figure out, it could happen again with the new guy.
Bottom line: Before choosing anyone, figure out why you cheated in the first place. Solve that issue and it may answer who to choose. Never know... it could be neither!
happy thoughts.......
peggy m
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