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Joined: 11/25/2007
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I am 19 years old and I was in a relationship for 3 years, ever since I was 14 years old. I lost my virginity with him when I turned 17. every thing was great, he never cheated(or So I think )an he wasnt jealouse, he trusted me an was perfect. After we had sex 2 weeks later I broke up with him. Why I do not know. I have a new boyfriend that ive been dating for 1 year know, an things are great but I seem to be thinking about my ex alot an some of his traits. its weird I compare my ex to my current boyfriend so much. Am I still in love with my Ex? I dont even know why I broke up with him. What Should I do? Am I holding strings with my past relationship? Is this going to effect my current relationship? Please help!!
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/13/2007
Posts: 55
Location: Hyde Park, MA
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Usually when you lose your virginity to a guy, you really don't forget that person, only because he was your first... If you broke up with him and don't know why, then I believe you need to figure out what it is you want out of a relationship... Thinking about your ex is a sign that you still care about him or possibly have feelings for him....
so, give yourself some space from the both of them and think things through, because it's not going to be fair to your partner now, that you are totally not committed to him... Don't waist his time as well as yours. You need to be honest with him as well as with yourself....
Good Luck
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/12/2007
Posts: 117
Location: South-East Oklahoma
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Amen, again, Yaleman! He's right, that KEY piece of information on the real reason you left the ex is extremely important. Relationships don't just end, we still have a relaitonship with the MEMORIES, feelings, and emotions, experience with those relationships. ANd you better trust they paint all future relationships. If you don't mind, Sstewart, to answer these simple question. After you guys had sex, did HIS behavior change and THAT sent you away? Or was it possible that the reason you don't know, is simply that, you don't know because you based your action on how you FELT about him at the time? Would help us help you with this guy! Also are your currently being that intimate with this boyfriend? Usually with the "2 weeks" after sex thing, and because sex is POWERFUL stuff, the reason IS going to based around that.....
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Rank: Advanced Member
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Joined: 12/17/2007
Posts: 245
Location: Florida
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Hi
You have to ask the question why you broke off with your ex. It seems like you still care about or have some kind of guilt for breaking it off. You cant start a new relationship looking for same traits as your ex..That's not a good start..You need too find yourself. you need answers that only you can answer.listen to your heart.. Give yourself time.Good luck.
Rocky
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Joined: 12/23/2007
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Location: Tonkawa, ok.
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In a perfect world, you would have had plenty of help understanding relationships & about sex from the teachings of your loving & caring parents. This would have given you the weapons of your warfare that you would need inoder to stop falling victim to every single relationship problem that falls your way! Hollywood is make believe! Life & what we think is "love" sometimes hurts! As it is, your a beautiful young woman set adrift on the sea of endless sexual opportunity, clueless of what to expect, how to guard yourself form the dangers, & how to deal with the pleasures that lure you in those directions in the first place! I'm in my 40's now, & I can tell you that I can easilly remember each & every one of my past lovers! Still excellent friends with most of them! Have had sexual encounters with over half of them in the past. It's just something that occurs. I'm not going to debate the right or the wrong of it! I just want you to know that it's normal for you to continue to have feelings for some one you have known in the past! It cold be dangerous to over think the situation & cause yourself to beleive that there is more to the relationship than there really is! You must remind yourself, that, even though you may not remember why you broke up with this man, you still did! Once again, it is perfectly normal to only remember the good times & forget about the bad. You have to give yourself time to know yourself!!! Take things a little slower & don't rush into things!!! Life comes naturally fast enough! All we can do by getting into a hurry is causing problems that we don't need!!! I truly hope the best for ou!!!
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