This is a very long story so I will just fill in the specifics. Basically, I started dating this woman after my divorce was final. I have been dating here for over a year now. When I met her, she was just separated from her husband a few months. I was out of an old relationship of 12 years and all my ex did was lie to me and cheat.

This new woman, she is the greatest thing I have ever touched. I love everything about her except the fact that she has done nothing to show me that her old relationship is over. She has animals she must share and I am cool with that. The problem I am not cool with is that everyday on her work lunch, she has to go there. After work, she will spend usually 30 minutes to 2 hours visiting her animals while her ex is around. She does bring her dogs back here with her often because they are sharing custody. She has to please his family so it doesn't look like the reason she isn't with him is because of another man. She does the same for him too.

Three weeks ago, out of the blue, she came to me and told me how she was going to an amusement park that is about 200 miles away with her ex and her family. I was not very happy about it just because I felt very left out and kind of hidden from everything. The worst part was that she had to hide even talking to me. I would get random text messages every once in a while and on occasion, a phone call that would last about a minute or until someone came around.

This last recent thing came up because her family found out about the divorce and his Aunt invited her to stay with her for a week to get away from pressure here. This is another state and few thousand miles away. It seemed kind of bogus and I wondered if he was going too. She swore to me that he wasn't so I just figured I should just trust what she says. On Monday morning, I am driving to work and I pass his work. He parks in the same spot every day and he was not there. I had a friend call his work for me and someone told her that he was on vacation all week. I then sent her a text message and told her that I could not take this and I knew he was with her. She sent me several back promising that he was not with her and so on. Later that afternoon, she called me and had some crazy story how he called her and said he was flying there that night to try and work things out with her. She told him no and said she wanted this vacation to get away from all of that but supposedly, he went anyways.

As of now, she says she left for the last two days with his Aunt to another portion of the state but still has to use restrooms to contact me and still has to hide the communication. She also knows that I am on the edge of breaking it off with her but she promises me that she loves me and begs me not to leave her. She also said that she will finally file for divorce next week.

Anyone out there that can maybe open my mind a little? As of now, I am very depressed and feel like I lost all trust for this woman. Only way she could gain some trust back is if she could prove to me that he is not with her and I have no idea how to get that information.

Thank you!