Hi i need relationship advice like really bad. I know all relationship advice is somewhat the same but i'm stuck and can't talk to my mom or anyone about this because everyone thinks i'm not talking to him. I'm 22 years old and i'm in love with him like crazy.But okay i'll start by sayin that in the beginning he was a great guy and my mom and brother liked him. I fell in love n cared fro him like more then my ex boyfriend and i felt so comfortable with him than anyother guy that i've ever cared about. We started dating last summer it was great we had some great times he'd come over to my house and we'd have fun and my mom would always make him laugh which made me happy that my mom finally liked someone that i cared about. But some problems started in the summer time last year bc i guess there was this girl and he tried to push me away n tryed to date her n it hurt me n i didn't know what to do because i did everythin for him n was there for him and loved him. Then the summer came to an end and i had to go back to college and he was working at the time so what i would do is drive to pick him up on the days that he wouldn't work he would come n stay at my college which i enjoyed. But sometime between that he would always ask me to sleep over n my mom always said no n i didn't know why at the time. Then eventually he left that job which at the time he told me that he quit but then i found out a month later from my mom that he stole from the company that my mom works for not like in her company but from the gas station that is part of the company and i confronted him about it and he said that he had nothing to do with it. So i continued to see him because i cared for him n loved him. But i came home for winter break which is a month for college students and my mom told me to stop seeing him because of the reason of him stealing from the job. And i was hurt when she told me to stop seeing him it hurt me bad and it was hard to see him but she let me for a while then by christmas it was pretty much ended for us seeing eachother in public. My birthday came and i was so upset cause i wanted him to be at my house with me on my birthday but then new years came and he said if i didn't come to his house that he would go to a party and meet a girl and have sex with her. He met a girl and he kissed her. so i assumed that was cheating on me even he says we weren't together but i know that if someone still cares for someone and isn't together that is called cheating. And when he told me that it hurt me bad. Theres a lot more to that whole story and its too long to tell so i'm skipping that story. So even though i wasn't suppose to see him i still did i woke up every morning for that month off to go see him n sneak around n still got in trouble for talkin to him n everything n i put my family through hell that whole month n i didn't realize i did till now. I am sorry for what i did to them. He eventually threaten to kill my family which is wrong. So he eventually came back to the college to live with me again in january for the spring semester i knew it was a bad idea but i still wanted to be with him. So eventually things got bad. And we were fighting half the time and i would always try n talk to my roommates for advice n to talk to them but he would always get mad at that because i would always put it out there but i only wanted to talk to my roommates because he would never talk to me when we fought. I loved him and put up with so much shit for him and i still got crapped on no matter how much i loved him. But soon it became horrible i hit hiim for not sleepin in my bed once bc i wanted him o be in the bed with me and he would hurt me more including holdin my mouth shut or hitting me in the back or whatever but he broke my phone and cracked my screen on my computer because he hated the fact that i had contact with my mom or a computer he hated the fact that i talked to my mom every night. Everytime i cried or talked to talk or he assumed somethin he called me a slut for no reason. N it would hurt me. Then spring break came n i'd sneak over there to see him during the week in the mornings i lost my car because i was sneaking to see him. I loved him n still do but there is so much to this story but i will get to what i have to say which is recent. He htinks because i'm home for the summer he thinks i can come over for a long period of time to see him and not leave. But the thing is i don't want to lie anymore to her cause i've done to much to lie n he thinks that i should sleep over this weekend n lie n say taht i'm stayin over at someone elses house but what if she calls my cellphone n i don't pick up i don't even get service at his house and i'm too embrassed to be at his house with his family around. If i don't sleep over this weekend he will try to get my mom fired from her job n say bad thins about me but he didn't really say he would do it but i know how he thinks. The only reason i'm with him right now is to stop him. Hes been ignoring me lately and i'm thinkin that he just doesn't care anymore for me and he says if i don't sleep over then we are done. he says he wants me but he doesn't even try to talk to me. I can't lie to my family anymore bcause i want my family to trust me i love my family there everything to me n i care about him but i can't be with him public. My heart is gone i ahve no feeling in my heart i gave it to him. N he says hes not breakin up heart but he really is. Hes broken up with me but then he wants me back and he says that he doesn't waant to hurt me but he is and he doesn't ever listen to me n what i'm tryin to say when i can't lie anymore. Please help me i may have left some parts out but maybe you can help me. I'm confused n hurt please help

I really think he is too important to you. I think you need to start to be more into yourself before being into him. Take a breather. Look at what you are doing.

It shouldnt be this hard.

Go to church, pray about it, let God do His thing and heal relationships. You have tried to control it long enough.