klove wrote:So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now and we just broke up. We were fighting almost everyday. I would get mad at him because he would go hang out with his friends instead of me. I felt like he should be with me. He would get angry when I was upset and he told me that i was whiny. He couldn't see himself with a girl that whines. I really miss him and still very much in love with him but i don't know what to do. Should I change myself to be with him or should I just get over him? But how do i get over him he works at the same work and our best friends are dating so we will see each other. Please help me!!!
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do me a favore and ask your friends to be honest with you and ask them if they think your more of a whiner then not!
I see his point he wants to hang out with friends! (what is wrong with that) have you hung out with him and his friends? maybe he want's some alone time! Maybe you want to spend more time! maybe you just want him near you so you can see him. Maybe your worried he will find someone else!
all of this shows me that your just insecure with yourself. maybe not extreamly but you have some insecurity to some degree!
You should never change yourself to be with someone you should only change yourself if YOU WANT TO CHANGE.. in fact it's the only way a change will stick with you!!! :)
so yes it is hard to cut ties and not want them back but it don't seem like it's your choice! yes you may run into him! just be nice but don't try to socolize with him!
and when your at work your there to work not shoot the breeze and i'm sure you work with more then him i'm sure there are other people there so talk to them if you do need to shoot the breeze!
Breaking up is hard there is nothing that can make it easier other then your acceptances that this is how things are!
yes it sucks butt.
but your stronger that that! and you can get over this! why would you want to be with someone who called you whiner when you don't think you are! ???
