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I screwed up my relationship with a guy that I really really loved and went out with for almost 2 years. I know what I did wrong and I'm willing to fix it and if we get a chance, it would all be different. But he's not letting us try again and I don't understand why because we were so happy most of the time. help?
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when a guy loses his trust in someone, it takes a while to build back trust for that person. show him that you really care for him and that it was a one time mistake and he will slowly build back the trust for you he once had.
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I didn't do anything bad as in cheat on him to lose his trust though :(
I just... got mad at him a lot and I guess kinda took him for granted, but I didn't mean to. I really really love him more than anyone else and he's always been there for me, and always knew what to say when I got sad.. I really want him back :(
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Hi
Im not sure what you did wrong, im going to assume you cheated and if you didnt forgive my opinion.
If it is, then you have to understand some people, they can;t cope with that in a relationship because it will always sit in their minds whether your going to do it again or not.Also if i thought someone loved me more than anything and then cheated on me, my heart would be broken and very confused on why.All you can do is wait and give him time, or just move on with your life and learn by your mistakes.
Rocky
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rockyfella25 wrote:Hi
Im not sure what you did wrong, im going to assume you cheated and if you didnt forgive my opinion.
If it is, then you have to understand some people, they can;t cope with that in a relationship because it will always sit in their minds whether your going to do it again or not.Also if i thought someone loved me more than anything and then cheated on me, my heart would be broken and very confused on why.All you can do is wait and give him time, or just move on with your life and learn by your mistakes. Uhm. I didn't cheat, I would never do that. I got mad at him a lot for little things but I never realized how hard it was for him. Now that I know, I will fix it, but he was unwilling to try again...
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I have to apolize to you, im sorry i took it very wrong, i am one to admit when i am wrong.you didnt state it and i just assumed, i learn by my mistakes that next time i will ask before i respond.I hope you both can get back together.
The only reason to get back together is if you are absolutely certain that you can build a stronger relationship than before. The reasons, motivation, and commitment to get back together and make it work have to come from both sides. It will take some painful plain talking to cut to the heart of things, but don't agree on generalities. Ask each other what you think about what happened and what went wrong the first time around. Make sure you agree on the fundamentals. Come to specific, mutually agreed-upon solutions or middle ground and make a commitment to stick to this. Then, maybe you have a chance of things going better the second time around.
Wish you alot of Good Luck
Rocky
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