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A girlfriend of mine, has recently filled me in on her situation - her husband spend about a few minutes a day talking to her, he sasys he is busy at work, which seems to be the truth given his success and recent surge in cash. Yes he is building wealth which is great for both of them, but there has got to be a fine line of consideration for each other that shouldn't be crossed. I have tried to explain this to her, but it seems like she doesnt want to say anything to him, b/c the husband would think that she is trying to slow him down, and not be "supportive" . I want to best address this for her sake, but i feel it needs be done carfully, if anyone out there has some pointers on this, i would listen and use them...thanks
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Hi
How come she only talks to him a few minutes a day, i know you said he is busy at work but what about when he arrives home? Dont they communicate then? Sometimes money isnt everything, it all depends on the indiviual. Making money to make a better life for your friend and her husband, arent your suppose to spent some of that wealth together. Yes your friend should confront her husband and see if they can communicate better.What's money without feeling loved? She should try to explain in as like maybe you should slow down a little for health reasons later down the road. Maybe he doesnt realize he is leaving her out of his life due to working all the time. When two people love eachother, they should beable to talk about everything, things that on on their minds etc. Hope things turn out ok.This isnt one of my experiences.Good luck
Rocky
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It is wonderful that her husband is successful and working hard in making a life for them, but he also needs to understand that materialistic things is not as important than the one you love...
Your girlfriend needs to sit and talk without being afraid, to her husband. She needs to let him know that she loves him and is very supportive of him, but they need to make time out for themselves...
Getting into a routine is not good for a marriage. People tend to get stuck and don't make changes.. She should suggest that they make a date at least once a week and spend time together. It takes two to keep the fire from burning out.... If they cannot do it during the day, then they can make dates for the evening or what I call the third shift... My partner and I do it and it seems to work... We never forget the importance of a couple and spending the quality time together....
Good Luck to her and God Bless!
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