How Do I Get Over So Much Hurt?

Q: Deanna (from anonymous):

I’ve been hurt and cheated on so many times, how do I get past that and let someone love me with me loving that someone back?

A: REALationship.com Expert Team:

Deanna, there is no easy answer to your question, but here is the truthful answer.

First, you need to figure out why you allowed into your life people who would cheat on you and hurt you. Not that it was your fault, but you need to understand why it happened, so that you can prevent it from happening again..

Then you need to learn what a healthy relationship looks like and what a healthy man looks like, so that you can stop putting up with people who can't give you the love you want. You should learn about healthy relationships and healthy men even if you are already starting to be involved with someone new – you don’t want to get hurt yet again. 

Last, you need to let go of the hurt and pain from all of your past relationships, so that you can move unencumbered into the future.  Even you, after being hurt and cheated on so many times, can have a healthy, happy, satisfying relationship. You just need to do some work to get there.

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